tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-154552092903273548.post4703897172981283360..comments2024-01-11T13:15:48.832-08:00Comments on Anne R. Allen's Books: The Worst Thanksgiving Ever...And Can a Romantic Heroine Stay Happily Single?Anne R. Allenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02420000168356370825noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-154552092903273548.post-1512095113556651682019-11-03T08:23:58.371-08:002019-11-03T08:23:58.371-08:00Wow...Wow...Janet Boyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11676168082353131568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-154552092903273548.post-43155949216821406052019-11-01T11:51:21.361-07:002019-11-01T11:51:21.361-07:00Haha! And that doesn't count the mistresses in...Haha! And that doesn't count the mistresses in between. The guy is seriously high maintenance. <br />Anne R. Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02420000168356370825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-154552092903273548.post-68882108938615508232019-10-29T08:10:34.451-07:002019-10-29T08:10:34.451-07:00Ack! FIFTH wife?!Ack! FIFTH wife?!Janet Boyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11676168082353131568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-154552092903273548.post-87781902795549727162019-10-26T11:56:52.764-07:002019-10-26T11:56:52.764-07:00Janet--I'm so glad you agree about Camilla. It...Janet--I'm so glad you agree about Camilla. It sounds like you've had some tragedy in your life, but you've overcome it. The idea of "single" meaning "unhappy" is a concept that comes from an era that thankfully is over. Women still earn less than men, but that doesn't mean we can't take care of ourselves. And you're right that marriage is no guarantee of happiness. I was married for two insane years and I was so relieved when it was over! I'm still friends with him, but I don't envy his fifth wife! Anne R. Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02420000168356370825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-154552092903273548.post-29523205008515500372019-10-26T00:03:11.729-07:002019-10-26T00:03:11.729-07:00Hi Anne! I was married when I was 18; my husband d...Hi Anne! I was married when I was 18; my husband died just over 7 years later from leukemia. Was a widow for 10 months, not looking to get married again. Met my present husband, became fast friends, and was married 6 weeks later (we just celebrated our 22nd anniversary a few months ago). I loved my single life (which confused many). I love married life now. I think people erroneously confuse "single" with lonely and "married" with happy...which is not only oudated, but patently ridiculous.<br /><br />Happiness is a state of well-being that has nothing to do with marital status and everything to do with being comfortable in your own skin...and enjoying your own company. 🙂<br /><br />This is one reason I don't read romances (and could never write one): I don't believe a spouse "completes" a person (many miserable people are married). And, I don't think it's a human birthright to be partnered (or have kids for that matter). <br /><br />In short...keep Camilla single! 😁 And YAY, you, for cultivating a fulfilling life without a partner...and staying strong despite the insensitive and ignorant behavior of "marrieds". 😜Janet Boyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11676168082353131568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-154552092903273548.post-17600870502393778372019-10-25T19:57:21.624-07:002019-10-25T19:57:21.624-07:00Melodie--I have a lot of close friends who are rec...Melodie--I have a lot of close friends who are recent widows. They all say the same thing. Old situations suddenly become awkward. Women who used to host the big family "do" suddenly aren't invited. Or they're expected to carry on as if they hadn't lost the partner who did half the work. We're a society in transition, and we don't know how to deal with "old maids", divorcees (oh, my!) and widows the way our ancestors did. Most of that is good, but we haven't created a substitute rule of conduct. So we're treated as embarrassments. Not easy. But hanging out with other single women friends (who can laugh with us) helps a lot! Yeah. Live outside the box! Anne R. Allenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02420000168356370825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-154552092903273548.post-30131671533594162632019-10-25T17:28:11.105-07:002019-10-25T17:28:11.105-07:00I'm newly single, Anne, as you know - after ma...I'm newly single, Anne, as you know - after many years married to a fine man who died. I am learning everything you mentioned above. And I've found the best thing is to seek out other single people rather than hang with my old married friends. Those old friends don't seem to know what to do with me. I don't *fit*. Of course, since you and I write zany comedy, we were always going to be outside the structured box, eh? grinMelodie Campbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07870938103759179132noreply@blogger.com